“First of All... Don’t Tell Me What To Do”: Relationship Repair & Emotional Regulation

Rachel and Rosie start with vocabulary words and somehow end up talking about ADHD, re-parenting, emotional regulation, and ChapStick. They discuss the question that immediately reduced tension with both a husband and a toddler, why parenting starts with exhaustion instead of expertise, and how a five-second pause can completely change a conversation.

WHAT WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE

→ why "I need you to be ready" landed so badly

→ the same relationship troubleshooting question working on both the husband and a toddler

→ what you're actually afraid of losing in moments of tension

→ why some people need a question before they can find an answer

→ maternal mental health and taking time for yourself

→ re-parenting, self-regulation, and making your own voice matter

→ parenting in the Wild West of conflicting advice

→ "new plan," "proof of life," and other phrases that make family life easier

→ why parenting doesn't start with expertise—it starts with exhaustion

→ what repair really sounds like after a hard moment

→ modeling for your kids how to pause before reacting

🔗 LINKS & MENTIONS

- Lingvano app for learning American Sign Language

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→ @regulatingwithrachel

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