You Didn't Fall In Love With A Dad: Loving Your Partner As A Person (Not Just A Co-Parent)
Rachel and Rosie talk about feuding with Jamie about baby cuddles until he check-mates her with argument using video game terminology, and how Aiden knows Rosie better than anyone as he supports her giving a stranger the Heimlich over a choked-on brat, and we love on the moms who understand that 8:30AM is the BEST playdate time. This is Rachel and Rosie's Father's Day dispatch on husbands — but really it's about loving your partner as a person, not just the parent they became after you had kids.
In this episode, you can join the convo about:
• Why "you didn't fall in love with a dad" is the reframe that keeps you from losing your partner inside the parenting role
• What Rosie's husband does that she can't — the specific way he "disarms" a meltdown when she's at her wit's end
• Using the "When-then" as the level 1 expectation-setting phrase that gets your kids to listen even at a year and a half old (and why most people skip the first half of it)
• What to do when you and your partner are dysregulated at the same time — hint: it's not "wait until we're calm to talk"
• Why gentleness isn't the opposite of strength — it's the thing that keeps strength from becoming a blind spot
Rachel and Rosie recorded this the week of Father's Day, right after Rachel's home buyers tried to schedule a walkthrough at 8:30am on Father's Day (no). From we sincerely do our best to stay on topic: what it looks like when one partner becomes "the only one who can read the baby" (especially during breastfeeding), strong couple foundations and how Rachel calls Jamie out without turning it into a fight, and why writing down what you love about your partner — not as a co-parent, just as a person — is worth doing today, not just on Father's Day.
⭐ Resources Mentioned:
• Thrive Institute infant CPR/first aid course
• Five Love Languages assessment
• "One Last Thing" — Judgment, Not Judgmental episode 7
✨ Connect with Judgment, Not Judgmental — hosted by Rachel & Rosie:
• Website: rachellefebvre.com
• Instagram: @judgment_not_judgmental + @regulatingwithrachel
• Rachel's Emotionally Efficient Parenting™ program to learn to do math with feelings (DM JNJ)
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